Give Yourself to Love
An online course on finding & growing the partnership you love

Whether you’re single or in relationship, this pay-what-you-can online course gives you a spiritual, practical approach to finding & growing partnership you love.

  • September 2018 – March 2019, first half weekly, second half 2x/month
  • Mondays 5-7pm Pacific, starting September 17, 2018 (replays available)
  • Pay-what-you-can (+ 100% money-back guarantee)
  • Led by: Zo Tobi, Happy Husband + Professional Certified Coach


Learn 6 principles for finding and growing fulfilling partnership:

“IS THIS FOR ME?” • Let’s chat!

Contact the course leader, Zo Tobi, to schedule a free exploratory chat:


Why I lead this course

Zo Tobi, PCC
Happy Husband
Professional Certified Coach

Hi friends! I am a professional coach, teacher, and musician. My mission is to help people live the lives they are proud of, and end their day saying: “YES! I did what I came here to do.”

Waiting to find your partner can be agonizing — like an itch you can’t scratch.

And, of course, finding someone who you think just possibly might be “the one” for you — that can be downright scary and uncomfortable too.

I’ve been there.

After ending a long-term relationship, I was ready and waiting over two years to find my life partner.

And by “ready,” I mean… impatiently waiting, desperately hoping, and growing more resigned by the day. 😛

I’d basically become obsessed with the fact that I hadn’t found my partner yet… and it took the wisdom and support from a few mentors for me to realize that, if my future life partner were to bump into me that very day, I’d hardly be ready to meet them!

I was desperate, grasping, clinging… I wasn’t being the person I’d want my future partner to meet.

As soon as I realized this, I stopped just “praying” and “hoping,” and started shifting the way I saw myself, others, and the world.

I started standing up straighter, walking with more of a strut in my step, and moving through my daily life as the person I’d want my future partner to meet.

And then it happened.

This is one of those “how-do-you-explain-that” kind of moments…

…Only a few months later, I met Kelly, my future life partner and wife — and we quickly fell in love. 

And even though we lived across the country from each other at the time, we chose to let love grow.

And love grew: After a few months, we knew we were the one for each other. Soon after, we moved in together, and later became engaged and then married.

Kelly and I have had good times and tough times just like many couples, but with the help of so many mentors and teachers, we’ve gone through the ups and downs together, and our relationship has been transformational for both of us.

The love Kelly & I have for each other is the kind of love I want you to have. That’s why I created this program.

Throughout all these years, both with my friends and also as a professional coach, I’ve gotten to offer relationship guidance to many, many people.

Now, at the encouragement of some of my clients and friends, I’ve distilled what I’ve learned and taught others into an easy-to-follow, step-by-step course you can use — to find and create the partnership you’re excited to come home to.

I can hardly contain myself — this program is going to be such a blast! 😀

See you there,

Zo Tobi,
Happy Husband + Professional Certified Coach

p.s. – That’s my wife and me in the photo above! 🙂 While we are a heterosexual, cis-gendered, monogamous couple, what I’ll share will apply to any gender, sexual orientation, and relationship type.

p.p.s. – The program title came to me as I was contemplating what it’s really about at the heart of it. Immediately, I thought of one of my favorite songs: the timeless “Give Yourself to Love” by American folk songwriter, Kate Wolf. Listen and weep!

What You’ll Get

This course will NOT magically “manifest” the partnership of your dreams. 🙂 But it will help you take action to prepare for it, find it, and deepen it.

Think of it like this: This course helps you actually put into practice what you might already know, but aren’t consistently doing.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this course will give you support, tools, and practices to:

  • Come from a place of joy instead of fear or desperation, both in seeking and growing the partnership you love coming home to.

  • Move past your old, habitual, knee-jerk reactions, so you can fully access your innate desire and capacity to love.

  • Show up as the loving partner you want to be, so that you can end each day knowing you truly made someone’s life wonderful.

  • Make yourself and your life fully available for love, so you can enjoy the precious opportunities you might have missed or passed up.

  • Grow your capacity to love, so you can nurture the partnership you love — or end it with grace when it’s not a true fit.

  • Learn fewer relationship lessons “the hard way,” so you can create and cherish more proud moments and happy memories.

AND, you’ll be a part of an incredible community of peers, all supporting each other to be successful.

What You’ll Learn

You and a supportive cohort will go through six real-time modules together:

Principle 1: Envision True Partnership

    • Set the stage for partnership that lets you breathe more deeply and inspires you to leap out of bed in the morning (or stay IN bed!).
    • Discover your “authentic criteria” for partnership so you don’t have to waste time — yours or others’ — on something you don’t truly love.

    Principle 2: Get Out of Love’s Way

      • Move beyond self-limiting narratives, such as fear of getting hurt or hurting others, worrying “all the good ones are taken,” or thinking you’re unworthy of love.
      • Become not only “ready” but actually excited to find and grow partnership you love.

      Principle 3: Be the Partner You Seek

        • See how to “put yourself out there” in your own unique, authentic (fun!) way — without grasping, forcing, settling, or being someone you’re not.
        • Gain a simple set of principles and tools for nurturing intimacy, communicating openly, and doing in partnership what you could not do alone.

        Principle 4: Set the Table for Love

          • Make yourself fully available for love, so you’re ready for partnership when it comes!
          • Get ready to show up fully once you’ve found partnership that’s for you.

          Principle 5: Let Love Grow

            • See how to answer the question: ‘How do I tell if they’re right for me?’ so you don’t have to worry anymore about making the “wrong” choice.
            • Learn to quickly discern when to move on, when to commit, and when to explore the possibility so you can see what the thing is!

              Principle 6: Be Love’s Student

                • See how to sustain the principles you learn in this course as a lifelong practice, instead of a one-off experience.
                • Develop your capacity to focus your attention on what you’re doing right, instead of dwelling on what you’re doing wrong.

                What’s Included

                • 6 months of steady ongoing support

                  This course is short enough to have a beginning, middle, and end — but long enough to create real, lasting results.

                • 6 online training sessions

                  In these real-time sessions, we’ll study each principle with ample time for Q&A and group discussion as we go.

                • 12 online group coaching sessions

                  Raise questions, celebrate successes, address challenges, and gain insight by listening to your fellow classmates.

                • Join live by computer or phone

                  We’ll meet via Zoom, a simple, user-friendly video call platform – and if you’re offline, you can call in by phone.

                • Easy daily practices

                  Enjoy simple, doable practices and exercises for infusing the principles of the course into your daily life.

                • Incredibly supportive community

                  In our sessions, a dynamic Facebook Group, and even after the course, you will be astounded by the support, friendship, and community you experience.

                • Lifetime access to course materials

                  Get lifetime access to all session slides and summaries, video & audio recordings, and assignments.

                • Unlimited text support

                  In between sessions, we can text back and forth to talk about your insights, questions, and challenges.

                Reviews from Graduates

                “I’ve fallen in love with the world. This course has opened my heart in ways I never thought possible.”Laura Lee
                “I now see myself as someone truly “going for” love. I’m asking people out instead of talking myself out of it. I’m not “waiting for a partner” before doing things I love… I’m doing them now, because that’s the person I’d want my partner to meet. If I could send one message to my future partner, it would be: take this course.”Jeremy Blanchard
                “This course has helped me enjoy dating; say goodbye with grace to relationships that weren’t a fit; and say “yes!” to budding romance even when it scares me. This course creates real results — and it’s actually FUN.”Lizzy Fox
                “In terms of “before & after,” I barely recognize myself. I’ve become less whiny, defensive, and selfish, and more loving, present, and supportive. It’s helped me learn from my partner, rather than taking everything they do as a personal affront. This course is the shit. I wish everybody I know would do it.”Josh Van Vliet
                “I’m SO GRATEFUL for this course! It’s been a life-changer. I’ve been engaging in romantic possibilities and everyday interactions with presence, clarity, and joy. Instead of feeling terrified or defeated, I’m actually EXCITED to find my life partner!”Rachel Fryke
                “This course helped me in crucial moments early in my relationship. I realized I was looking for “deal breakers,” when it was really just the normal “eek” when you really like someone. I loved the blend of principles, coaching, and learning from each other — the group wisdom was remarkable.”Allison Roeser
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                “Is this for me?”

                Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this is for you if you’re looking for a spiritual approach to partnership that is all about being the partner you seek.

                This stuff is universal. These principles apply across age, race, culture, gender, ability, sexuality, and relationship type.

                This is for you if you’re ready for fulfilling partnership, willing to see your part in creating it, and eager to discover new ways of seeing and doing things. This is for you if:

                • You feel stuck and you’re tired of "just waiting."

                  This is for you if you’ve been afraid of getting hurt or hurting others, worried “all the good ones are taken,” or felt you’re unworthy of love.

                • You're tired of not finding what you want.

                  This is for you if you’re done “forcing it,” trying to be someone you’re not, or “putting yourself out there” with nothing to show for it.

                • You want to bring your best to a new relationship.

                  This is for you if you’re starting a new relationship and you want to bring your best to it, rather than recreating old patterns.

                • Your current relationship is at a crossroads.

                  This is for you if things have got to change — or if you’re feeling unsure whether to move on, stick around, or really commit.

                • You're in a great relationship you want to deepen!

                  This is for you if you’re ready to grow even closer to your partner by nurturing intimacy and making yourself fully available for love.

                This is not for you right now if:

                1. You’re pretty much comfortable with where you are at the moment.
                2. You’re not interested right now in being in a committed relationship.
                3. You’re not in a place to be investing time or energy in your growth.
                4. You’re in need of emotional healing before you can really look ahead.

                “Am I up for this, or do I need healing first?”

                You’ll know you’re up for the course if you’re willing, ready, and able to:

                • Look ahead at what’s next for you in love and partnership.
                • Examine and shift the way you see and do things, even when doing so might bring up some discomfort.
                • Focus on finding and grow partnership for the purpose of contributing to your partner.

                Conversely, the course is probably not the time for you if you are:

                • Unable to look ahead, because you are really consumed by painful memories from the past.
                • Unable to examine your way of seeing and doing things, because it’s currently too painful.
                • Focused on using partnership to “fill a hole” in your heart.

                Why people join:

                • “I feel ready to let go of my stories and self limiting beliefs about love and my worthiness.”

                • “To gain support in my relationship with myself and my relationship with my partner, improve my communication skills and capacity to show up for myself and for them.”

                • “I want strategies to find/grow a healthy romantic relationship, without feeling hopeless about it all.”

                • “Wanting support in creating an authentic, deep relationship that supports the unfoldment, blossoming, flourishing and thriving of both partners on all levels.”

                • “I want to shine a light on all of the ways I get in my own way regarding this deep desire I have for my love life.”

                • “I’m in the middle of breaking 10-year-old relationship patterns and getting new awareness about what I am looking for.”

                • “I am at crossroads/breaking point in my 5yr partnership. I would like to learn how to attract/cultivate a partnership with an equal, where we can both grow, share passion and inspire each other.”

                • “I’m confident you’re not going to tell me how to do this, but rather guide me to my own answers, and that feels like something I’d love more of — self-trust without worrying what other people think!”

                My Approach

                I have logged over 1,800 hours of professional coaching, and am rigorously trained and certified by the Academy for Coaching Excellence (ACE), an Accredited Coach Training Program through the International Coach Federation (ICF).

                My work is rooted in ontology, the study of being. Ontology looks at what it truly is to be human: The values we live by, the heroic journey we are each here to take, and, ultimately, the gift to others we want to be known for. My approach centers:

                • Universal Wisdom

                  My approach is grounded in principles found across spiritual and secular traditions, from ancient wisdom teachings to the latest research in neuroscience.

                • Pragmatic Principles

                  My approach turns timeless wisdom into an elegant framework of tools and practices for living your values, realizing your vision, and empowering others.

                • Transformational Practices

                  My approach teaches you how to create lasting shifts in the way you see and do things — long after the high of an “aha” moment wears off.

                • Compassionate Support

                  My approach honors the wholeness and dignity of every person, and affirms our capacity to move beyond external obstacles and internal limitations.

                • Social Consciousness

                  At its heart, my approach is designed to empower people to fulfill their unique part in creating a world in which everyone is supported 100% and no one is left out.

                Dates & Time

                All our virtual sessions are in real-time by video or phone, Mondays 5-7pm Pacific.

                We’ll meet weekly for the first three months, and twice a month for the last three months.

                No worries if you can’t join live — you’ll get the replay and materials within 48 hours of each session, and you’ll still get unlimited use of the Facebook Group and text support.

                What’s the time commitment? Joining the sessions or watching the replays, plus 5-60 minutes of very light “homework” every 2 weeks. 🙂

                Part 1: Training

                We’ll meet almost weekly for the first three months, alternating between training and coaching sessions:

                Principle 1: Envision True Partnership
                • September 17 – Training Session
                • September 24 – Coaching Session
                Principle 2: Get Out of Love’s Way
                • October 1 – Training Session
                • October 8 – Coaching Session
                Principle 3: Be the Partner You Seek
                • October 15 – Training Session
                • October 22 – Coaching Session
                Principle 4: Set the Table for Love
                • October 29 – Training Session
                • November 12 – Coaching Session
                Principle 5: Let Love Grow
                • November 26 – Training Session
                • December 3 – Coaching Session
                Principle 6: Be Love’s Student
                • December 10 – Training Session
                • December 17 – Coaching Session

                Part 2: Integration

                We’ll meet twice a month for the last three months, for group coaching sessions:

                • January 14, 2019
                • January 28, 2019
                • February 11, 2019
                • February 25, 2019
                • March 11, 2019
                • March 25, 2019


                6 monthly payments at the level that is a stretch but not a hardship:

                • $300/month if you are financially flourishing
                • $225/month if you are financially stable
                • $150/month if you are making ends meet
                • $100/month if you are living month-to-month
                • $75/month if you are in significant hardship

                OR, pay what you can:

                If these tiers would be a true hardship (as in endangering basic needs like food and shelter), choose the monthly amount that would be a stretch but not a hardship, and I’ll gladly welcome you in. Why? Because I want my work to serve everyone 100% with no one left out. Period. 🙂

                “What’s it really worth?”

                You’ll get 36 hours of real-time training and group coaching, plus unlimited support by text, email, and Facebook. I’m a Professionally Certified Coach, with over 1,800 hours of coaching experience. 1-on-1, this would cost between $7,200-$10,800. 

                With the group format, I can offer the course at a fraction that cost — while still earning a livelihood that supports my family.

                “How much should I pay?”

                Pay what you can, no more AND no less. For your sake, I don’t want this to be a hardship for you — AND, I don’t want you to “underpay” in any way that might “leave the door open” for you to disengage or give up on the course.

                For that reason, I suggest reading the sliding scale tiers above, and asking:

                1. “What would be a true ‘stretch’ but not a hardship?”
                2. “What price would rule out any thought in my mind of not engaging 100%?”

                “What if I feel bad about what I’m paying?”

                Pay with joy and keep it simple. 🙂 This is the best way to honor my work! Just make sure it’s really a stretch, and not a hardship. Pay more and help folks join who otherwise couldn’t. OR pay less, knowing you’re giving what you truly can.

                “Can I join for free?”

                No. Financial “skin in the game” — a stretch but not a hardship — supports you to get the most value from the course. If this would put your basic needs at risk, it’s also likely you wouldn’t get value from this course right now.

                Questions? Contact me!

                100% Money-Back Guarantee

                If you’re not satisfied at any time during the course, I’ll give you a full or partial refund (your choice) — AND you can keep all course materials.

                I am happy to take all the risk off of you, and assume it myself. 🙂 That said, please know that refunds impact the viability of my business. I ask that you only join if you are 100% in.

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                NOTE: Read the Pay-What-You-Can guidelines, then select the monthly payment tier and register! Please pay the amount that is a true stretch — but not a hardship.

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