Give Yourself to Love
Find & grow the partnership you love coming home to.

March-May 2018 • 100% online + real-time • Pay-what-you-can

Whether you’re in or seeking partnership, this course will give you a smoother, more FUN journey to a lasting partnership you love coming home to.


Why I’m leading this course

Zo Tobi, PCC
Happy Husband
Professional Certified Coach

Hi friends! I am a professional coach, teacher, and musician. My mission is to help people live the lives they are proud of, and end their day saying: “YES! I did what I came here to do.”

Waiting to find your partner can be agonizing — like an itch you can’t scratch.

And, of course, finding someone who you think just possibly might be “the one” for you — that can be downright scary and uncomfortable too.

I’ve been there.

After ending a long-term relationship, I was ready and waiting over two years to find my life partner.

And by “ready,” I mean… impatiently waiting, desperately hoping, and growing more resigned by the day. 😛

I’d basically become obsessed with the fact that I hadn’t found my partner yet… and it took the wisdom and support from a few mentors for me to realize that, if my future life partner were to bump into me that very day, I’d hardly be ready to meet them!

I was desperate, grasping, clinging… I wasn’t being the person I’d want my future partner to meet.

As soon as I realized this, I stopped just “praying” and “hoping,” and started shifting the way I saw myself, others, and the world.

I started standing up straighter, walking with more of a strut in my step, and moving through my daily life as the person I’d want my future partner to meet.

And then it happened.

This is one of those “how-do-you-explain-that” kind of moments…

…Only a few months later, I met Kelly, my future life partner and wife — and we quickly fell in love. 

And even though we lived across the country from each other at the time, we chose to let love grow.

And love grew: After a few months, we knew we were the one for each other. Soon after, we moved in together, and later became engaged and then married.

Kelly and I have had good times and tough times just like many couples, but with the help of so many mentors and teachers, we’ve gone through the ups and downs together, and our relationship has been transformational for both of us.

The love Kelly & I have for each other is the kind of love I want you to have. That’s why I created this program.

Throughout all these years, both with my friends and also as a professional coach, I’ve gotten to offer relationship guidance to many, many people.

Now, at the encouragement of some of my clients and friends, I’ve distilled what I’ve learned and taught others into an easy-to-follow, step-by-step course you can use — to find and create the partnership you’re excited to come home to.

I can hardly contain myself — this program is going to be such a blast! 😀

See you there,

Zo Tobi,
Happy Husband + Professional Certified Coach

p.s. – That’s my wife and me in the photo above! 🙂 While we are a heterosexual, cis-gendered, monogamous couple, what I’ll share will apply to any gender, sexual orientation, and relationship type.

p.p.s. – The program title came to me as I was contemplating what it’s really about at the heart of it. Immediately, I thought of one of my favorite songs: the timeless “Give Yourself to Love” by American folk songwriter, Kate Wolf. Listen and weep!

Course Overview

In this 90-day online course, you and a supportive cohort will go through six real-time modules together:

Module 1: Envision True Partnership

  • Set the stage for a relationship that lets you breathe more deeply and inspires you to leap out of bed in the morning (or stay IN bed!).
  • Discover your “authentic criteria” for partnership so you don’t have to waste time — yours or others’ — on something that isn’t what you truly want.

Module 2: Be the Partner You Seek

  • See how to “put yourself out there” in your own unique, authentic (fun!) way — without grasping, forcing, settling, or being someone you’re not.
  • Gain a simple set of principles and tools for nurturing intimacy, communicating openly, and doing together what you could not do alone.

Module 3: Get Out of Love’s Way

  • Move beyond self-limiting narratives, such as fear of getting hurt or hurting others, worrying “all the good ones are taken,” or thinking you’re unworthy of love.
  • Become not only “ready” but actually excited to find and grow the partnership you love.

Module 4: Set Up Your Life for Love

  • Make yourself fully available for love, so you’re ready to be with your partner when you meet them!
  • Get ready to show up fully once you’ve found a partnership that is or might be the one for you.

Module 5: Let Love Grow

  • See how to answer the question: ‘How do I tell if they’re right for me?’ so you don’t have to worry anymore about making the “wrong” choice.
  • Learn to quickly discern when to move on, when to commit, and when to give it a chance long enough to see what the thing is!

Module 6: Be Love’s Student

  • See how to sustain the principles you learn in this course as a lifelong practice, instead of a one-off experience.
  • Gain strategies for focusing your attention on what you’re doing right, instead of dwelling on what you’re doing wrong.

Is this for you?

Whether you’re in or seeking lasting partnership, this is for you if you are ready to be the partner you seek, with the support of a community of peers dedicated to doing the same.

This course welcomes and applies to ALL people, regardless age, race, gender, ability, sexuality, or relationship type.

I LOVE working with purpose-driven, socially conscious, spiritually-oriented people who see life and the world as it is and as it could be, and are called to bridge the gap.

This is NOT for you right now if:

  1. You’re not currently interested in “serious” partnership.
  2. You’re not in a place to look ahead or make life changes.
  3. You’re not interested in a spiritual view of partnership, involving giving of yourself to nourish the life of your partner.

My Approach

I have logged over 1600 hours of professional coaching, and am rigorously trained through the Academy for Coaching Excellence (ACE), an Accredited Coach Training Program through the International Coach Federation (ICF).

My work is rooted in ontology, the study of being. Ontology looks at what it truly is to be human: The values we live by, the heroic journey we are each here to take, and, ultimately, the gift to others we want to be known for. My approach centers:

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    Universal Wisdom

    My approach is grounded in principles found across spiritual and secular traditions, from ancient wisdom teachings to the latest research in neuroscience.

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    Pragmatic Principles

    My approach turns timeless wisdom into an elegant framework of tools and practices for living your values, realizing your vision, and empowering others.

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    Transformational Practices

    My approach teaches you how to create lasting shifts in the way you see and do things — long after the high of an “aha” moment wears off.

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    Compassionate Support

    My approach honors the wholeness and dignity of every person, and affirms our capacity to move beyond external obstacles and internal limitations.

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    Social Consciousness

    At its heart, my approach is designed to empower people to fulfill their unique part in creating a world in which everyone is supported 100% and no one is left out.

What You’ll Get

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    Six live training sessions

    In these sessions, we’ll engage the course curriculum, with ample time for Q&A and group discussion as we go.

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    Six live coaching calls

    Raise questions, celebrate successes, address challenges, and gain insight by listening to your fellow classmates.

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    Join live by computer or phone

    We’ll meet via Zoom, a simple, user-friendly video call platform – and if you’re offline, you can call in by phone.

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    Easy daily practices

    Enjoy simple, doable practices and exercises for infusing the principles of the course into your daily life.

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    Incredibly supportive community

    In our sessions, a dynamic Facebook Group, and even after the course, you will be astounded by the support, friendship, and community you experience.

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    Lifetime access to course materials

    Get lifetime access to all session slides and summaries, video & audio recordings, and assignments.

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    Doable 90-day timeframe

    While all you learn will last you a lifetime, the 90-day course itself contains a clear beginning, middle, and end.

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    Unlimited text support

    In between sessions, we can text back and forth to talk about your insights, questions, and challenges.


We’ll meet online on Mondays, 5-7pm Pacific Time, on the dates below.

Can’t make some of the live sessions? No worries! You’ll get a recording of each session no later than 48 hours afterward, AND you can always take advantage of the unlimited text support and Facebook Group.

Module 1: Envision True Partnership
  • March 5 – Training Session
  • March 12 – Group Coaching Session
Module 2: Be the Partner You Seek
  • March 19 – Training Session
  • March 26 – Group Coaching Session
Module 3: Get Out of Love’s Way
  • April 2 – Training Session
  • April 9 – Group Coaching Session
Module 4: Set Up Your Life for Love
  • April 16 – Training Session
  • April 23 – Group Coaching Session
Module 5: Let Love Grow
  • April 30 – Training Session
  • May 7 – Group Coaching Session
Module 6: Be Love’s Student
  • May 14 – Training Session
  • May 21 – Group Coaching Session

Register Now

My promise for this “Pay-What-You-Can” course: You’ll get more than your investment’s worth — or get a full refund at any time.

You’ll get 24 hours of training and coaching with me — which, at my 1-on-1 rate, would cost between $4,200-$7,800.

By using what you learn in this program, you will:

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    Gain more of the health benefits — mental, emotional, and physical — which correlate strongly to satisfying long-term relationships.

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    Save yourself countless wasted hours of “dead-end dating,” and put that time, money, and energy toward the other things you really want to do in life.

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    Seek out and draw toward you opportunities — romantic, personal, and professional — you might have otherwise missed or passed up.

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    More quickly and thoroughly enjoy the benefits of a loving partnership, in which you are supporting each other personally and professionally to do what you could not do alone.

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    Learn fewer relationship lessons “the hard way,” so you can enjoy more happy memories and luminous moments, with fewer difficult moments in between.


Pay What You Can

If this is for you, pay what you can and come on in.

Why? I want my work to serve everyone 100% with no one left out. Period.

“How much should I pay?”

This approach works when you pay what you truly can — no more, no less. A few simple guidelines:

  1. Read the suggested tiers below.
  2. Ask: “What would empower me to participate 100% and get my money’s worth?”
  3. Ask: “What would be a true, uncomfortable ‘stretch’ — but not a hardship?”
  4. Pay at one of the tiers — OR choose any amount higher, lower, or in between.

Here are the suggested tiers:

These reflect what I see as the value of the course, and what will make this sustainable for me. You can also choose any amount higher, lower, or in between.

  • $90,000+ (all USD): $600/month ($1,800)
  • $70,000 – $89,999: $500/month ($1,500)
  • $50,000 – $69,999: $400/month ($1,200)
  • $25,000 – $49,999: $300/month ($900)
  • $0 – $24,999: $150/month ($450)

“What if I feel bad paying less?”

Please: Pay with joy and keep it simple. 🙂 Pay more, knowing you’re helping folks join who otherwise couldn’t. OR pay less, knowing you’re giving what you truly can.

“Can I join for free?”

Yes, if paying would put your basic needs at risk. If so, use the coupon code GIFT to get 100% off. If you know in your heart this is not you, please pay an authentic amount that is a stretch but not a hardship.

Questions? Email me at [email protected]!

100% Money-Back Guarantee

If you’re not satisfied with the course, email me at [email protected] to get a 100% refund at any time — AND you can keep your course materials.


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