Give Yourself to Love
Find & grow the partnership you love coming home to.
Whether you’re in or looking for a relationship, this online course will give you a more fun, fulfilling journey to a lasting partnership you love.
What: A 12-session, 90-day online course on love and partnership
When: Weekly sessions, March 5 – May 21, 2018, Mondays 5-7pm Pacific
Led by: Zo Tobi, Happy Husband + Professional Certified Coach
FREE INTRO WEBINAR • Watch the replay now
Learn 6 principles for finding and growing fulfilling partnership:
Why I’m leading this course
Zo Tobi, PCC
Professional Certified Coach
Hi friends! I am a professional coach, teacher, and musician. My mission is to help people live the lives they are proud of, and end their day saying: “YES! I did what I came here to do.”
Waiting to find your partner can be agonizing — like an itch you can’t scratch.
And, of course, finding someone who you think just possibly might be “the one” for you — that can be downright scary and uncomfortable too.
I’ve been there.
After ending a long-term relationship, I was ready and waiting over two years to find my life partner.
And by “ready,” I mean… impatiently waiting, desperately hoping, and growing more resigned by the day. 😛
I’d basically become obsessed with the fact that I hadn’t found my partner yet… and it took the wisdom and support from a few mentors for me to realize that, if my future life partner were to bump into me that very day, I’d hardly be ready to meet them!
I was desperate, grasping, clinging… I wasn’t being the person I’d want my future partner to meet.
As soon as I realized this, I stopped just “praying” and “hoping,” and started shifting the way I saw myself, others, and the world.
I started standing up straighter, walking with more of a strut in my step, and moving through my daily life as the person I’d want my future partner to meet.
And then it happened.
This is one of those “how-do-you-explain-that” kind of moments…
…Only a few months later, I met Kelly, my future life partner and wife — and we quickly fell in love.
And even though we lived across the country from each other at the time, we chose to let love grow.
And love grew: After a few months, we knew we were the one for each other. Soon after, we moved in together, and later became engaged and then married.
Kelly and I have had good times and tough times just like many couples, but with the help of so many mentors and teachers, we’ve gone through the ups and downs together, and our relationship has been transformational for both of us.
The love Kelly & I have for each other is the kind of love I want you to have. That’s why I created this program.
Throughout all these years, both with my friends and also as a professional coach, I’ve gotten to offer relationship guidance to many, many people.
Now, at the encouragement of some of my clients and friends, I’ve distilled what I’ve learned and taught others into an easy-to-follow, step-by-step course you can use — to find and create the partnership you’re excited to come home to.
I can hardly contain myself — this program is going to be such a blast! 😀
See you there,
Happy Husband + Professional Certified Coach
p.s. – That’s my wife and me in the photo above! 🙂 While we are a heterosexual, cis-gendered, monogamous couple, what I’ll share will apply to any gender, sexual orientation, and relationship type.
p.p.s. – The program title came to me as I was contemplating what it’s really about at the heart of it. Immediately, I thought of one of my favorite songs: the timeless “Give Yourself to Love” by American folk songwriter, Kate Wolf. Listen and weep!
What You’ll Get
My promise for this “Pay-What-You-Can” course: You’ll get more than your investment’s worth — or get a full refund at any time.
This course will NOT magically “manifest” the partnership of your dreams. 🙂 But it will help you take action to prepare for it, find it, and deepen it.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this program will give you the chance to:
Be a part of an incredibly supportive community of peers who are all dedicated to integrating spiritual principles into all aspects of life.
Enjoy the benefits of loving partnership more quickly and thoroughly, as you and your partner do what you could not do alone.
Save yourself needless hours of “dead-end dating,” and put that time, money, and energy toward the things you really want to do.
Seize opportunities you might have missed or passed up, whether romantic, personal, and professional.
Learn fewer relationship lessons “the hard way,” so you can enjoy more happy memories and luminous moments, with fewer difficult moments in between.
What You’ll Learn
In this 90-day online course, you and a supportive cohort will go through six real-time modules together:
Module 1: Envision True Partnership
- Set the stage for partnership that lets you breathe more deeply and inspires you to leap out of bed in the morning (or stay IN bed!).
- Discover your “authentic criteria” for partnership so you don’t have to waste time — yours or others’ — on something you don’t truly love.
Module 2: Get Out of Love’s Way
- Move beyond self-limiting narratives, such as fear of getting hurt or hurting others, worrying “all the good ones are taken,” or thinking you’re unworthy of love.
- Become not only “ready” but actually excited to find and grow partnership you love.
Module 3: Be the Partner You Seek
- See how to “put yourself out there” in your own unique, authentic (fun!) way — without grasping, forcing, settling, or being someone you’re not.
- Gain a simple set of principles and tools for nurturing intimacy, communicating openly, and doing in partnership what you could not do alone.
Module 4: Set the Table for Love
- Make yourself fully available for love, so you’re ready for partnership when it comes!
- Get ready to show up fully once you’ve found partnership that’s for you.
Module 5: Let Love Grow
- See how to answer the question: ‘How do I tell if they’re right for me?’ so you don’t have to worry anymore about making the “wrong” choice.
- Learn to quickly discern when to move on, when to commit, and when to explore the possibility so you can see what the thing is!
Module 6: Be Love’s Student
- See how to sustain the principles you learn in this course as a lifelong practice, instead of a one-off experience.
- Develop your capacity to focus your attention on what you’re doing right, instead of dwelling on what you’re doing wrong.
Six live training sessions
In these sessions, we’ll engage the course curriculum, with ample time for Q&A and group discussion as we go.
Six live group coaching calls
Raise questions, celebrate successes, address challenges, and gain insight by listening to your fellow classmates.
Join live by computer or phone
We’ll meet via Zoom, a simple, user-friendly video call platform – and if you’re offline, you can call in by phone.
Easy daily practices
Enjoy simple, doable practices and exercises for infusing the principles of the course into your daily life.
Incredibly supportive community
In our sessions, a dynamic Facebook Group, and even after the course, you will be astounded by the support, friendship, and community you experience.
Lifetime access to course materials
Get lifetime access to all session slides and summaries, video & audio recordings, and assignments.
Doable 90-day timeframe
While all you learn will last you a lifetime, the 90-day course itself contains a clear beginning, middle, and end.
Unlimited text support
In between sessions, we can text back and forth to talk about your insights, questions, and challenges.
Reviews from Graduates
“I’ve fallen in love with the world. This course has opened my heart in ways I never thought possible.”Laura Lee
“I now see myself as someone truly “going for” love. I’m asking people out instead of talking myself out of it. I’m not “waiting for a partner” before doing things I love… I’m doing them now, because that’s the person I’d want my partner to meet. If I could send one message to my future partner, it would be: take this course.”Jeremy Blanchard
“This course has helped me enjoy dating; say goodbye with grace to relationships that weren’t a fit; and say “yes!” to budding romance even when it scares me. This course creates real results — and it’s actually FUN.”Lizzy Fox
“In terms of “before & after,” I barely recognize myself. I’ve become less whiny, defensive, and selfish, and more loving, present, and supportive. It’s helped me learn from my partner, rather than taking everything they do as a personal affront. This course is the shit. I wish everybody I know would do it.”Josh Van Vliet
“I’m SO GRATEFUL for this course! It’s been a life-changer. I’ve been engaging in romantic possibilities and everyday interactions with presence, clarity, and joy. Instead of feeling terrified or defeated, I’m actually EXCITED to find my life partner!”Rachel Fryke
“This course helped me in crucial moments early in my relationship. I realized I was looking for “deal breakers,” when it was really just the normal “eek” when you really like someone. I loved the blend of principles, coaching, and learning from each other — the group wisdom was remarkable.”Allison Roeser
“Is this for me?”
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this is for you if you’re looking for a spiritual approach to partnership that is all about being the partner you seek.
This stuff is universal. These principles apply across age, race, culture, gender, ability, sexuality, and relationship type.
This is for you if you’re ready for fulfilling partnership, willing to see your part in creating it, and eager to discover new ways of seeing and doing things. This is for you if:
You feel stuck and you’re tired of "just waiting."
This is for you if you’ve been afraid of getting hurt or hurting others, worried “all the good ones are taken,” or felt you’re unworthy of love.
You're tired of not finding what you want.
This is for you if you’re done “forcing it,” trying to be someone you’re not, or “putting yourself out there” with nothing to show for it.
Your current relationship is at a crossroads.
This is for you if things have got to change — or if you’re feeling unsure whether to move on, stick around, or really commit.
You're in a great relationship you want to deepen!
This is for you if you’re ready to grow even closer to your partner by nurturing intimacy and making yourself fully available for love.
This is not for you right now if:
- You’re not interested in being in a committed relationship.
- You’re not in a place to be investing time or energy in your growth.
- You’re in need of emotional healing before you can really look ahead.
“Am I up for this, or do I need healing first?”
You’ll know you’re up for the course if you’re willing, ready, and able to:
- Look ahead at what’s next for you in love and partnership.
- Examine and shift the way you see and do things, even when doing so might bring up some discomfort.
- Focus on finding and grow partnership for the purpose of contributing to your partner.
Conversely, the course is probably not the time for you if you are:
- Unable to look ahead, because you are really consumed by painful memories from the past.
- Unable to examine your way of seeing and doing things, because it’s currently too painful.
- Focused on using partnership to “fill a hole” in your heart.
I have logged over 1,800 hours of professional coaching, and am rigorously trained and certified by the Academy for Coaching Excellence (ACE), an Accredited Coach Training Program through the International Coach Federation (ICF).
My work is rooted in ontology, the study of being. Ontology looks at what it truly is to be human: The values we live by, the heroic journey we are each here to take, and, ultimately, the gift to others we want to be known for. My approach centers:
My approach is grounded in principles found across spiritual and secular traditions, from ancient wisdom teachings to the latest research in neuroscience.
My approach turns timeless wisdom into an elegant framework of tools and practices for living your values, realizing your vision, and empowering others.
My approach teaches you how to create lasting shifts in the way you see and do things — long after the high of an “aha” moment wears off.
My approach honors the wholeness and dignity of every person, and affirms our capacity to move beyond external obstacles and internal limitations.
At its heart, my approach is designed to empower people to fulfill their unique part in creating a world in which everyone is supported 100% and no one is left out.
Dates & Time Commitment
All sessions are in real-time (online or by phone) over 12 weekly Mondays, March 5 – May 21, 5-7pm Pacific.
What’s the time commitment? 12 two-hour weekly sessions, and 5-60 minutes of light “homework” every 2 weeks. 🙂
Also, no worries if you can’t join live — you’ll get the replay and materials within 48 hours of each session, and you still get unlimited use of the Facebook Group and text support.
Principle 1: Envision True Partnership
- March 5 – Training Session
- March 12 – Group Coaching Session
Principle 2: Get Out of Love’s Way
- March 19 – Training Session
- March 26 – Group Coaching Session
Principle 3: Be the Partner You Seek
- April 2 – Training Session
- April 9 – Group Coaching Session
Principle 4: Set the Table for Love
- April 16 – Training Session
- April 23 – Group Coaching Session
Principle 5: Let Love Grow
- April 30 – Training Session
- May 7 – Group Coaching Session
Principle 6: Be Love’s Student
- May 14 – Training Session
- May 21 – Group Coaching Session
Pay What You Can
If this is for you, pay what you can and come on in.
Why? I want my work to serve everyone 100% with no one left out. Period.
“What’s it worth?”
You’ll get 24 hours of training and group coaching. I’m a Professionally Certified Coach, with over 1,800 hours of coaching experience. 1-on-1, this would cost between $4,200-$7,800.
With the group format, I can offer the course at a fraction that cost — while still earning a livelihood that supports my family.
“How much should I pay?”
“Pay-what-you-can” works when you pay what you can! Simple guidelines:
- Read the suggested tiers below.
- Ask: “What would put my butt in the game?”
- Ask: “What would be a real ‘stretch’ but not a hardship?”
- Pay one of the tiers, OR an authentic amount higher, lower, or in between.
By annual household income:
- $90,000+ (all USD): $600/month for 3 months ($1,800)
- $70,000 – $89,999: $500/month for 3 months ($1,500)
- $50,000 – $69,999: $400/month for 3 months ($1,200)
- $25,000 – $49,999: $300/month for 3 months ($900)
- $0 – $24,999: $150/month for 3 months ($450)
Given the course’s value, I ask that you pay at least $36/month for 3 months ($108 total). If this would endanger your basic needs, contact me.
“What if I feel bad about what I’m paying?”
Pay with joy and keep it simple. 🙂 This is the best way to honor my work! Just make sure it’s really a stretch, and not a hardship. Pay more and help folks join who otherwise couldn’t. OR pay less, knowing you’re giving what you truly can.
“Can I join for free?”
No. Financial “skin in the game” — a stretch but not a hardship — supports you to get the most value from the course. If this would put your basic needs at risk, it’s also likely you wouldn’t get value from this course right now.
Questions? Contact me!